Parenting Style: What is your style? What will you choose?

Parenting Style

Different people have different kind of living style and their perspective of seeing things. It’s not necessary if they have become parents, their ideas and parenting style would be the same. In some cases, their parenting style differs from children to children too. What exactly I want to say is, different people have different kinds of styles to handle their children in different phases of life. Some have only one style, some have two and some have all. The main motive is to grow their child into a well behaved and successful human being. The parenting styles commonly used in psychology today is based on the work of Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist. She discovered that the child’s behavior depends on what kind of parenting style is used to nurture them.

Based on Baumrind’s observation, interviews and analysis, there are four parenting styles that are used by different parents all over the globe. These are:

1. Authoritative 

2. Authoritarian 

3. Permissive

4. Neglectful

1. Authoritative Parenting

High demanding, high response, clear rules, value independence and supportive

In this parenting style, the parents are nurturing, responsive and supportive, yet set firm limits for their children. They attempt to control children’s behavior by explaining rules, discussing and reasoning. They listen to their children’s viewpoints but don’t always accept it.

Children raised with this style tend to be friendly, energetic, cheerful, self-reliant, self-controlled, curious, cooperative and achievement-oriented.

2. Authoritarian Parenting

Unresponsive, strict rules, high expectation, expect blind obedience

In this style, parents establish the rules and except that children will follow them without exception. Children have little to no involvement in problem-solving challenges or obstacles. Instead, parents expect their child will follow all of the rules all the time.

Children raised with this style tend to follow rules most of the time, they may develop self-esteem problems. Sometimes they become aggressive or hostile when they are given punishment. They fight for that rather than learning how to make decisions and solve problems.

3. Permissive Parenting

Warm and responsive, few or no rule, indulgent and lenient

Permissive parents don’t offer many disciplines. They are lenient and may only step when there is a serious problem. There may be sometimes children misbehave as parents have an attitude of ‘kids will be kids.’ They are more friends than parents. They encourage their children to talk with them about their problems.

Children raised with this parenting style tend to be impulsive, rebellious, aimless, domineering, aggressive and low in self-reliance, self-control, and achievement.

4. Neglectful Parenting

Cold and unresponsive, no rules, uninvolved and indifferent   

Neglectful or uninvolved parents give a lot of freedom to children or generally stay out of it. There is no particular discipline style. They mostly let their child what they want to do. There is less communication between the two. There are few or no expectations from the children.

Children raised with this style tend to have low self-esteem and little self-confidence and seek other, sometimes inappropriate, role models to substitute for the neglectful parent.

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